I had this saved so I could read it in peace after my exams were over.
Such a beautiful introduction for your father. The prose at the beginning really draws you in, I kept wondering where you were going with it, and that slow unfolding really set the tone right. I’ve really been enjoying these more personal essays you’ve been writing. The way you transitioned from keeping patriarchy at the edges of the story as just a word, to gently coaxing it into the centre of the prose felt so natural. The Shravan Kumar reference teleported me straight back to my childhood, and the act of keeping the letters reminded me of Anne Frank preserving proof of her suffering.
Also, your use of “stoicism” makes me want to digress for a minute (apologies in advance for the looong comment) because Classical Stoicism was about responding to circumstances with inner discipline, not about emotional repression. It’s internet culture and often patriarchal conditioning, that has flattened it into this idea of men not feeling at all.
And omg, “If the bricks were really strong enough, couldn’t they bear the damage for their weaker foundations altogether?” was so incredibly thoughtful. I’m so glad that you pointed it out in the right context.
Also, it’s not about writing something “new.” These themes have existed forever, it’s mainly the way you portray them that matter, Ayush.
Also omg finally, Badi Ghar Ki Beti mentioned!!
Beautiful piece, as always, looking forward to reading more <3
I had so much doubts starting this with my father's story but as patriarchy assumes that women are the inferior gender, it was obvious that I had to start there and personally my father coming to ahmedabad is the origin of everything so yea that is why i started the story at that point. Thanks for noticing the transition between keeping patriarchy at edge and then converting it into the main theme of the article. I kinda took the inspiration of preserving letters from Anne frank indeed, i think i read about her when i was writing this. So your observation is very on point.
I knew that stoicism para would get noticed and i am really happy that you did, I used that definition to make the article more easily accessible to everyone and not only the people who know philosophy so sorry for that😭
Im very happy you find the brick analogy good, was kinda skeptical about it and also thank you very much for noticing my efforts, it indeed is not writing about something new, but it was about writing something personal.
Thank you so much for reading Prachi as always your interpretations and comments are very detailed and unique and never mind the long comments always keep them coming. It is such a treat to view your comments, thank you so much for being here♥️♥️
The Shravan Kumar reference was on point, I always love learning when I am reading something, even in personal stories. Your articulation is stellar as always. I feel like I was moving from one place to another while reading this!
I don't know what to say- beautiful would be an understatement. I really like the way you articulated this and took us through your father's story, your present story and the one you wish to live in soon. I come from a family where we moved through cities and places a lot so it felt relatable. Anyways, great read! Keep going :)
Hey Neha, I think you have done a great job at articulating what you felt throughout. The connections between my father's story, my current and future one is a brilliant way to put it. I have a little experience of moving through cities so I know how it feels :)
Thanks A lot for the appreciation, it means a lot♥️
omg hello what was this? so crazy and insane and brilliant, first of all, your command over words has gotten so awesome, the way your blur vulnerability and regret with stories is exceptional, loved the Hindi part as well, and where you talked about your grandmother. I loved your notions towards your family and how you credit people that has made you. I wish I was capable enough to articulate better, but loved every bit of it, you should continue writing more like this. 🫶🏻🫶🏻
You have articulated it very well Sakshi, thanks for noticing the notions towards the family. I am very happy that you liked the hindi part and I was eager to know what you think about it :)
Very grateful that you read my work, im a lot more happy than I can express. Thank youuu so muchh♥️🫶🏻
the words radiate. love the heart put into it. vulnerability and self expression is tough to deal with sometimes. words like potential and privilege get reduced to circumstance and conditioning and it's hard to deal with being a product of all that has come before, and accept it for what it is. the human condition perhaps. got off topic. wanted to say ki keep writing, it resonates.
Thanks a lot for noticing the heart put into this mate, I appreciate very much. And no worries you didnt go off topic, the bit about potential and privelge reduced to circumstances is very true, will give some thought into this. Thank you so much for reading♥️
this is your best piece so far and by miles. personal stories are really hard to convey and to convey them THIS way, that's a different ball game altogether. when something wrong happens around you there are only two ways you can go about it, fix it or let it mold you. happy to see that you could view those hardships and challenges in the way things were around you and tried to change it. being able to comprehend and present such personal anecdotes is very tough. so this post was a very successful courageous attempt. I hope you continue to write like this :)
Hello Abhishek Bhai, I'm grateful that you could find the storytelling entertaining. The bit about personal anecdotes and hardships is so true, somewhere along the line we have to decide whether we live in the past or make something out of it despite its bitterness. Thank you for appreciating the honesty and courage in this piece, I'm very happy that you took your time to read this♥️!!
I intended to write the hindi section as a whole post someday, but it was short and when i tried to expand, it was scattering around a lot. Someday I'll polish and republish that part again and I hope you get to read it again🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thank you so much for your comment bombing Aru, it has genuinely become a marker of whether I cooked or not in the post lol. Sorry for the tears mate :(((
Thanks a lot for your comments Im beyond grateful💗💗🫶🏻
I had this saved so I could read it in peace after my exams were over.
Such a beautiful introduction for your father. The prose at the beginning really draws you in, I kept wondering where you were going with it, and that slow unfolding really set the tone right. I’ve really been enjoying these more personal essays you’ve been writing. The way you transitioned from keeping patriarchy at the edges of the story as just a word, to gently coaxing it into the centre of the prose felt so natural. The Shravan Kumar reference teleported me straight back to my childhood, and the act of keeping the letters reminded me of Anne Frank preserving proof of her suffering.
Also, your use of “stoicism” makes me want to digress for a minute (apologies in advance for the looong comment) because Classical Stoicism was about responding to circumstances with inner discipline, not about emotional repression. It’s internet culture and often patriarchal conditioning, that has flattened it into this idea of men not feeling at all.
And omg, “If the bricks were really strong enough, couldn’t they bear the damage for their weaker foundations altogether?” was so incredibly thoughtful. I’m so glad that you pointed it out in the right context.
Also, it’s not about writing something “new.” These themes have existed forever, it’s mainly the way you portray them that matter, Ayush.
Also omg finally, Badi Ghar Ki Beti mentioned!!
Beautiful piece, as always, looking forward to reading more <3
I had so much doubts starting this with my father's story but as patriarchy assumes that women are the inferior gender, it was obvious that I had to start there and personally my father coming to ahmedabad is the origin of everything so yea that is why i started the story at that point. Thanks for noticing the transition between keeping patriarchy at edge and then converting it into the main theme of the article. I kinda took the inspiration of preserving letters from Anne frank indeed, i think i read about her when i was writing this. So your observation is very on point.
I knew that stoicism para would get noticed and i am really happy that you did, I used that definition to make the article more easily accessible to everyone and not only the people who know philosophy so sorry for that😭
Im very happy you find the brick analogy good, was kinda skeptical about it and also thank you very much for noticing my efforts, it indeed is not writing about something new, but it was about writing something personal.
Thank you so much for reading Prachi as always your interpretations and comments are very detailed and unique and never mind the long comments always keep them coming. It is such a treat to view your comments, thank you so much for being here♥️♥️
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Jab bhi likhte ho, sona ugalte ho!
The Shravan Kumar reference was on point, I always love learning when I am reading something, even in personal stories. Your articulation is stellar as always. I feel like I was moving from one place to another while reading this!
That first line is something i will keep as a proof that someone really liked what i have written. I will never forget this😭♥️
Really happy that you could travel with me in this essay, thank you for reading and such a beautiful comment Simran!!!
You're welcome, brother!
I don't know what to say- beautiful would be an understatement. I really like the way you articulated this and took us through your father's story, your present story and the one you wish to live in soon. I come from a family where we moved through cities and places a lot so it felt relatable. Anyways, great read! Keep going :)
Hey Neha, I think you have done a great job at articulating what you felt throughout. The connections between my father's story, my current and future one is a brilliant way to put it. I have a little experience of moving through cities so I know how it feels :)
Thanks A lot for the appreciation, it means a lot♥️
omg hello what was this? so crazy and insane and brilliant, first of all, your command over words has gotten so awesome, the way your blur vulnerability and regret with stories is exceptional, loved the Hindi part as well, and where you talked about your grandmother. I loved your notions towards your family and how you credit people that has made you. I wish I was capable enough to articulate better, but loved every bit of it, you should continue writing more like this. 🫶🏻🫶🏻
You have articulated it very well Sakshi, thanks for noticing the notions towards the family. I am very happy that you liked the hindi part and I was eager to know what you think about it :)
Very grateful that you read my work, im a lot more happy than I can express. Thank youuu so muchh♥️🫶🏻
yess i loved and I'm so grateful that you read my work too ☹️❤️❤️
Super work yaar Ayush!
Thank You very much Abhishek bhai, I'm very happy you liked this♥️♥️!!!
the words radiate. love the heart put into it. vulnerability and self expression is tough to deal with sometimes. words like potential and privilege get reduced to circumstance and conditioning and it's hard to deal with being a product of all that has come before, and accept it for what it is. the human condition perhaps. got off topic. wanted to say ki keep writing, it resonates.
Thanks a lot for noticing the heart put into this mate, I appreciate very much. And no worries you didnt go off topic, the bit about potential and privelge reduced to circumstances is very true, will give some thought into this. Thank you so much for reading♥️
this is your best piece so far and by miles. personal stories are really hard to convey and to convey them THIS way, that's a different ball game altogether. when something wrong happens around you there are only two ways you can go about it, fix it or let it mold you. happy to see that you could view those hardships and challenges in the way things were around you and tried to change it. being able to comprehend and present such personal anecdotes is very tough. so this post was a very successful courageous attempt. I hope you continue to write like this :)
Hello Abhishek Bhai, I'm grateful that you could find the storytelling entertaining. The bit about personal anecdotes and hardships is so true, somewhere along the line we have to decide whether we live in the past or make something out of it despite its bitterness. Thank you for appreciating the honesty and courage in this piece, I'm very happy that you took your time to read this♥️!!
Such a beautiful piece!! 🥹
Thank Youuu So much for reading Halima♥️♥️♥️!!
loved loved loved the hindi section
ro diya lo maine
I intended to write the hindi section as a whole post someday, but it was short and when i tried to expand, it was scattering around a lot. Someday I'll polish and republish that part again and I hope you get to read it again🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thank you so much for your comment bombing Aru, it has genuinely become a marker of whether I cooked or not in the post lol. Sorry for the tears mate :(((
Thanks a lot for your comments Im beyond grateful💗💗🫶🏻
I LEGIT CRIED TOWARDS THE END SO YES YOU COOKED VERY WELL AND YES PLS PUBLISH A FULLY HINDI PIECE ONE DAY
YESS I DEFINITELY WILL🫶🏻
Hindi is so beautiful
I'm very proud of you for writing this ok
I love how you talk about family :(((
Thanks Aruu🥹
Bro wtf I cannot restack ??????
Heee sachi😭?
Fixed it hehe
oh wow. this is getting better.
ok so I just started with this and i lowk feel like my post is also going to be like this thoda sa hahaha
Yayyy very happy😝